[image] Guiding Your Way out

[image] Guiding Your Way out
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  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    GiganticFox

    It's not just getting out, staying out is the real hard part. There is always something lurking around the corner waiting to drag you back down and even if you can see it coming, you can't always stop it.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    abauserman

    Managed to shower, brush my teeth and put on clean clothes this morning for the first time in almost a week. Still feel terrible but on days like these even small steps are an accomplishment.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    NlightenedSelfIntrst

    This is very poignant and reminds me of a quote that stuck with me after going through an extremely difficult time in my life. I may be paraphrasing... You don't know how strong you are until you have to be. - Bob Marley If you're in a dark place, hang on with everything you have. Thanks OP for posting.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    dictionary_hat_r4ck

    "This guy's walking down the street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can't get out. "A doctor passes by and the guy shouts up, 'Hey you. Can you help me out?' The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on. "Then a priest comes along and the guy shouts up, 'Father, I'm down in this hole can you help me out?' The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on "Then a friend walks by, 'Hey, Joe, it's me can you help me out?' And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, 'Are you stupid? Now we're both down here.' The friend says, 'Yeah, but I've been down here before and I know the way out.'" -From The West Wing
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    slashandburn26

    Why doesn’t this have upvotes. This is the basis of stating to improve your life. Small victories. Be happy one day. Then another. Then another. Coming from someone that had a gun in his mouth six weeks ago; this is important.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    XImmerseMeX

    The other day I thought I was going to kill myself. I managed to water the plants in my garden and just the simple act of taking care of something I love pulled me up and out. It was so hard though just to do it. The mind can be so powerful.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Orgasmicwonderboat

    It’s all about telling yourself that you genuinely love yourself, even if you dont wanna hear it.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    commutingtexan

    Just last night, as I fell asleep, I hoped and prayed that I wouldn't wake up. That somehow I would pass quietly in my sleep. I felt so unworthy of love and affection. Keep on truckin' guys.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    MegaHighDon

    11 years ago. My parents divorced after 25 years and my father destroyed our family due to his terrible drinking problem and inability to get over his pride and get a job that would allow us to keep his house. He drank himself to oblivion and faked looking for a job for 2 years and let our house go to foreclosure. Me and my mom dragged ourselves out of that hell and I was able to graduate high school (barely, and I was a fucking shithead). 7 years ago. My cousin killed himself. Slit his throat in his room and my aunt discovered him while he was still alive, choking on his own blood. His death caused our family to tear itself apart and my aunt barely made it out. He was a good friend of mine, we played video games together frequently, but drugs ultimately poisoned his mind and ultimate caused his death. The day of his funeral, I found out my father had lung cancer, while we had barely been on speaking terms, he’s still my dad. It took me a while, but I bounced back. 5 years ago. I left my ex, she was emotionally abusive, and trapped me in a cycle of guilt tripping and constant emotional turmoil. I never saw my friends, and everything I did was bad and wrong. She was mentally ill, so I don’t totally blame her, but it still messed me up bad. I gained weight, and just became pathetic and alone. My friendships were basically non existent, and I was at my lowest point. I had multiple periods of unemployment, and I contemplated suicide multiple times. The only thing that held me back was the fact that I knew the damage it does to families, and it would have killed my mother. 4 years ago. The final blow. My grandmother died. June 17th, 2015. She was my second mother, and helped raise me. She financially and emotionally supported me and my mom when my parents split. She bought my mom a brand new car when ours died. She was a huge part of my life, and she was gone. To add insult to injury, my cat of 13 years died two weeks after my grandma died. After the funeral, I just didn’t want to exist. I was just tired. 7 years of nothing but garbage existence, barely scrapping by. I had nothing. 2 years ago. I spent two years of wallowing in my own self. I was on and off work. Fat and alone. Then something clicked. What the fuck was I doing? My existence was just drinking and eating and sleeping. So i started changing my lifestyle. I started calorie counting, and I lost weight. 55 pounds in 6 months. During that time, my sister announced her pregnancy. Twins! Twin boys! June 16th, 2017. My twin nephews came into this world. 2 weeks prior I hit my 55lb weight loss goal. 3 months after that I met the love of my life. Today. Things aren’t perfect, and they probably never will be. But I have everything I could want. Rekindled friendships. A beautiful woman who loves me and that I would do anything for (and who I plan to marry) an amazing family that has been through just as much as me. We all made it out on top. Life is full of ups and downs. There will always be tragedy and loss. But in the midst of it all, there is life and there is hope, as long as you hold on to it. Love you internet!
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    thenerdyglassesgirl

    Fuck, man. I had a stressful day at work and I had to go to the bathroom to have a mini anxiety attack. Came back afterwards and went right back to cheery customer service mode. I couldn't do anything else. This post makes me feel 500% better.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    propagandhi1

    Can't do it anymore.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    sarah_spaz

    I need that so bad right now. We have a lot of really heavy shit going on, I’m not really ok. My husband is oblivious, in his own shit. I’m tired as fuck, I want to collapse, and I just want a long hug, but I know he’s processing this bullshit too. I just need to be held. I’m gonna deal fine eventually, I know I’m strong. I just don’t want to do this alone. I wish I could make him feel better, I love him so much.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    OG_PapaSid

    Woah, thanks stranger. Life's a struggle and it's nice to know someone out there is recognizing my slow mental progression
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Pandastrong35

    Fucking love you for recognizing this. It’s been a sorta sad few weeks here for me. Wife’s job has her in another state w/ the kiddos. Just saw them before Memorial Day, but it felt like a really quick trip. I miss them like crazy. I worry they’ll forget me. I’m concerned a physical distance is an emotional one, too. I heard from a friend that when my youngest is hurt, they say, “Daddy” first. That one hurt. I spent all weekend under a rain cloud in my head. Suns out here so I got burnt, but inside I was gloomy like a winter rain. Took an afternoon to just sit and think in peace and quiet. Catalogued my emotions: what am I feeling? Can I describe it? Does it have a physical feel to it? Where do I go mentally when I think of it? What would I advise someone who’s not me to do? Will I follow thru with whatever I’d suggest to them? After abt 2hrs, I was watching a thrilling rugby match, I felt better abt feeling sad. I think, and I’m not 100% sure of this but, I might’ve solved my mental/emotional Rubik’s cube. I spoke with my wife today & let her know I’ve been down. I quelled any nonsense abt me being mad/upset with her and let her know that my emotions are mine. She can’t control them, so don’t be upset by me being down. I just wanted her to know. It was strange. It felt like telling her I was down, and I have zero clue why, was harder than actually leaving them to come back to my job... Yeah, this is neither here nor there. I just felt compelled to tell my little sob story. Who knows, maybe someone will read it and feel my flow and it’ll help? It’s the best I can hope for, right? Anyway, thanks again. You’re fucking awesome.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    MAXIMUM_BUTT_FARTS

    I just got done listening to [this](https://youtu.be/mhFQA998WiA). It helped me today :) Procrastination is at the root of my anxiety, depression and a bunch of other stuff. I think of I can kill my inner procrastinator, I can achieve anything!
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    dagon85

    Thank you.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    myguitar_lola

    I literally just got on Reddit bc I was falling into my dark place. This was the first thing I saw, and it reminds me that I'm not alone.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    lecorrele

    I needed to hear this. *temporarily is motivated* *goes to Pornhub and masturbates* *falls asleep depressed again*
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Goblinkok

    Love you all.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    RHCP2323

    I've never talked about how much I've pulled myself out of. It feels nice to get some validation every now and then, even if its through anonymous strangers on the internet. So thank you, this was very nice.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    nibble25

    I felt so alone yesterday. I am alone and feel will be alone forever, then I realized this means I have stopped hoping for my ex to come back. Yay.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

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  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    mavezurune01

    Quit my job, lost a friend. Im still in this dark place. Been like this for quite a while. 6 months of idleness, unemployed, zombifying from day to day. I dont know what i want to do. Debts are piling, money getting thinned out. I cried, i shouted, i sorted things out but never have the motivation to move forward. What a failure.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Ben_ji

    >I'm proud of you. Sorry, but this isn't about you.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    TubaRagnarok

    Thanks! Most people don’t understand why that so hard for us who live with depression. That struggle to beat back the darkness is the hardest thing I do.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    AndroidMartian

    Sobreity and an exercise routine is a great start!
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    gm001

    I pull myself out of a dark place damn near every day. I have no reason to feel this way yet I do. It’s a battle starting most days but I do it
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    FrankDieselOG

    At least someone’s proud of me
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Maddierenee

    Needed this, thank you :)
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    johnvanarsdale

    “We suffer more from imagination than from reality.” — Seneca
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    borgth

    Everyday was daunting, everytime I woke up it felt like a nightmare. But I found a system that works for me, and for the first time in seven years, I come home with a smile on my face. Everyone keeps telling you, "It will get better", but you will, more times than not, feel that statement to be hopeless and empty. I just want to let you know, whatever demons haunt you, there is a better place. You will one day find it, and the exhilaration that is life will return. Keep your head up, seek help, find a system that works for you. I wish everyone could feel the pure joy of ending everyday excited for the next. But for those stuck in darkness, push to find that place. You will be stronger than most for the battles you've kept in secret, and won. There is hope.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    misterandosan

    For anyone who needs it, I've heard the book "Feeling Good" by Dr David Burns is a really great way to help you think more positively without the bullshit associated with self-help. It uses Cognitive Behavioural Therapy exercises. His book "Intimate Connections" helped me a lot with forming meaningful relationships with people, and had step by step instructions in terms of talking to strangers, building a fulfilling life, etc etc.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    seluritis

    Accepting that there will always be trials and tribulations seriously does the trick for me. It’s easy to forget how difficult shit can get when life is showing its merrier side. DONT FORGET, develop a sixth sense to see when roads are getting darker, then jump off that path sooner than later. This means you kind of live between the extremes. It’s strange at first but with vigilance and awareness of your daily decisions things gets smoother, not easier but manageable and one day...you’ll develop true value in yourself (you absolutely will if you hold your self accountable to your decisions). -Try to develop a long term goal you want to achieve, taking small steps towards that daily can help develop self value and self esteem. (We all need a reason to get out of bed. Make the reason big enough that you have to work to get it but not too hard that you won’t reach it In a reasonable time frame). -Self disciple is a limited resource, use it wisely! -Be careful how much you vent to others and who you vent to. Vent too much and the problems seem larger than they are, vent to the wrong people and you’ll be deeper in the hole than when you started -Be kind to yourself, you know how to take care of you! trust your gut from time to time , No one can love you like you can! I TRUST YOU, I lOVE YOU. We’re all gonna make it!!!
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    eiggaMAD

    <3
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    PattyIce32

    First 18 years of my life. Took 18 more to get out
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    euphonious_munk

    Thank you. I'm not proud of how I've been living lately and I recently sought professional help. One step at a time.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    LaDivina77

    Here holding space for myself and the rest of us who don't really even have the strength to pull ourselves out of it, but at least we're still here.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    The_Traveler42

    It's also not easily physically
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    skepsr1

    thank you. it's a struggle everyday but this at least helped today if anyone else is drowning please know to swim and not give up no matter how tempting it may be. I love you and your unknown face.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Taran_McDohl

    Absolutely.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    alecthunder2112

    Just focus on your breath for several hours, it will wash off the darkness layer by layer.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Tuubular

    You don’t even know me
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    NewOrleansNinja

    I got gaslighted for years about how I sucked at music from my ex. This was almost 3 years ago. My birthday was yesterday, and I decided to say fuck it, and write a song. Holy fuck. It came out so much better than I thought. I still have trauma issues from before, but I'm working my way back to me. I'm still scared of being told I suck, and I'm not good enough. I'm at a point where I don't care right now. Here's the damn song. https://youtu.be/AoXbjOMP6EU
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    johnvanarsdale

    “If you have a problem that can be fixed, there is no use in worrying. If you have a problem that cannot be fixed, there is no use in worrying.” – Buddhist proverb
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    johnvanarsdale

    “The world is a comedy to those that think, a tragedy to those that feel.” -- Horace Walpole
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    khaaanquest

    Yeah you know what, fuck it. I'm going to my last group therapy appointment this week and I actually feel confident about my ability to handle whatever comes next. I've been struggling my entire life to feel like I actually live in my body, not just my head. I'm on medication but even without it I have done battle inside my own head long and hard enough to know when I'm close to losing control, and I know the simple things that work for me to bring me back down to earth. The past few years of deep intense retrospection are an experience I can never forget. I've gone from too depressed to eat to too horny to stop fucking everything that moved, and hated myself through all of it, to know deep down that I deserved everything I put myself through. I went from that to now I'm actually considering giving a shit about an online dating profile and really be willing to put myself back out there. I'm caring for an amazing little cat and doing an ok job of keeping myself in good health. I work hard at my current job and know that when I'm ready to really get back into the work force at the earning potential I know I'm capable of, I believe that I'll do a good job at that too. I'm ready for the next chapter because I feel like I'm writing it as I go. To everyone out there in the worst struggle of your lives, you aren't alone and it's possible to have a life worth living again. Replace self hatred with self compassion and be at peace.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    NikkiBit

    I was in a dark place for a few years while facing substance abuse issues and in an abusive relationship. I almost ended my life a few times but thankfully called the suicide prevention line then checked myself into rehab. Relapsed a few times, then finally I just couldn’t take it anymore and I moved away and started over. It’s been five and a half years since then and I’m stable and happy and I’m a healthy relationship.. but I still have dreams sometimes where I’m back there and in a really deep depression and when I wake up from it, it’s a total mind fuck. Takes me a few minutes to realize it’s not real and I’m not ever going back to that state of mind. It’s my biggest fear still to this day.. to be that depressed again.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    fastfrequency

    For anyone struggling with depression, please give psilocybin mushrooms a try. They work wonders
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    omegauser9

    I'm going through a very dark point right now. &#x200B; I can't think of anything other than just driving off somewhere and not turning back. I need to get out because I'm being suffocated at home and my work is unfulfilling and toxic. &#x200B; It's so fucking hard to just get out of bed but I laugh it away, I finally get what people were saying about people who laugh a lot. I don't know how much longer I can keep this up.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    IllDuce222

    I'm still working on it. I used to be the most social of people and the life of the party but in the past 3 years I have been in a terrible hit and run motorcycle accident (crushed right arm and right hip with facial damage), lost my mother, been cheated on and it was with my best friend, lost my job (twice), lost my car and motorcycle and been homeless. Now I am dealing with a terrible case of social anxiety and depression and I've never dealt with anything like it before. Trying as hard as I can to fight my way back into the light and I know I will!
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    FitBit123

    I needed this today. Not been to the gym in ages and this morning I’ve gone and smashed it. Getting a fresh haircut and going to keep nailing it this week.
  • Posted: June 11, 2019 11:06

    Anonymous