[image] It’s Necessary Sometimes..

[image] It’s Necessary Sometimes..
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Author: LisaNaomi

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  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    creggieb

    May the bridges I burn brighten up the way onwards!
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Jake129431

    Sometimes you need to burn bridges because it will slow your enemy's pursuit of you. Edit: Thanks to whomever, that's my first award thingy, I don't Reddit well.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    KamikazeFox_

    This hits home hard with what I'm internally fighting right now. It's a good reminder to see this. Thank you.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    mathaiser

    Exactly this. Sometimes a bad break up is better so you can move on. It’s that easy break up that fks with you and causes one or both of you to linger too long wondering/hoping. Break the wrist, walk away.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    sreggin13

    Broke up with my girl on Christmas when I saw she was talking to this guy she had gone on a few dates with before me. Telling him that she thinks about him everyday and that she misses him and wants to rekindle things after she leaves me on new years. I saw that and just walked out didn't say a word to her just left her place and proceeded to burn every single bridge between her friends and family. It sucks but sometimes it's all you can do for yourself. Now I'm focused on leaving my hometown to start a new life somewhere else
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    KarenHilldidit

    - Nard Dog
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    typhoid-fever

    sometimes, it becomes a way of life.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    OGFahker

    Many years ago I utilized this tactic with the payday loans place in our town. Problem solved I couldn't go back.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    sdebeauchamp

    I'd rather take the time to burn every last bridge I've ever crossed beneath the sun than live my life knowing you may one day follow me over one -Aesop Rock
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    turdfuckinferg

    And don’t go to the effort of rebuilding one you never burnt in the first place.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Blaao

    Burn it all to the ground.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Lilac_Bow

    I only have one burnt bridge and the stress and anxiety it caused along with the divide between me and the people on the other persons side of the bridge doesn’t make it worth it. Then again, i haven’t made relationships with truly evil people where burning bridges protects you. In any non-abusive relationships,mho is keep things civil and don’t get others involved.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Somerandomdude97655

    Dude it’s like when I left all my tools behind after leaving my last construction job. Even threw away my steel toed boots. Even if I wanted to get back into that line of work, there’s so many tools you need I’d need to spend like 1-2k just to be functional, and that stopped me from even thinking about it the last time I needed a job. Now I have what I’d consider to be the best job I’ve ever had. No more construction woooo!
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    rellim1022

    Got off meth after 3 yrs by starting a fight with every person I knew that could get me more. Then moved to a new address three states away and started my life completely over. No rehab was needed in my case. I turned that shit into a being in my head and built a hatred for it. Like I would hate any human that was out to kill me. 19 years later and my hatred is still strong as ever. I had to lose every person I knew but I had no other choice.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Kafferty3519

    It's been 3 years since I did this and I still need to be reminded sometimes that it was the right move v_v
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    ipsibella

    Yes
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    SuckMyBacon

    Definitely agree with this one about my last friend group. We’ve all been around each other since high school, some even since middle school. But there was always this one asshole guy in the group who picked on me like no other. He obviously had some sort of sheltered problems going on in his life for him to behave like that. Of course I was the main target of it, partially cause Im generally a nice person. I wanted to be with my other friends but he was always there. Every single hang out or group activity he had to be there. I’ve told him to stop it in the past and he half ass apologized for it at one point. But he went back to old habits and one day I got sick of it and distanced myself from the whole group ever since. I had to burn that bridge for sure. Maybe one day I can hang out with a few of my real friends again but for now that bridge has got to stay burned. Adios to the toxic assholes.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    TaliyahRockShooter

    so i should burn my pc so i stop using it as a distraction to my studies. Okay then
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Vaqueishons

    Face tattoo logic. Good thinking tho
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    amerikiwi93

    Need to fun out how to burn Reddit
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    maverickf11

    Anyone got a good example?
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    imathrowyaaway

    Became a habit for me. Anybody being toxic, or dragging me down? Even if it’s family - burning that bridge, cutting them out of my life! Haven’t been happier, ever.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    hideX98

    Just saw this the other day. It's okay to burn bridges if they don't lead anywhere.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Reletr

    (sigh) I wish I could have known this before I inevitably kept harming someone that I cared about...
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    herpderp2217

    Sometimes you gotta close a door to open a window.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    SmudgeyTwoToes

    My girlfriend broke up with me recently, the problem is the relationship was going great and after months of us being together she just randomly tells me she’s not ready for a relationship even though she’s the one who pushed for it in the beginning. Now I can’t get her off my mind, and it’s probably easier for her then it is for me. I know it takes time and I know that hopefully I’ll feel better later on, but right now I can’t let go and I don’t know if I can. Right now I’m just giving myself this false sense of hope of “maybe we’ll get back together”
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    _DigitalHunk_

    Love it.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    isaiahreynolds77

    I needed this
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Vilekas1393

    Break ups, gambling other stuff. True
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

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  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    SailingPatrickSwayze

    is this like wetting down that left over cake before you throw it in the garbage?
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Miguel30Locs

    Can I get an example...
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Amoralist1818

    It's better to rebuild a new bridge brick by brick, than to repair a faulty one.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    delirium_3

    or to light the way.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    JohnTG4

    Sweet. Someone get me gasoline for my relationship with my dad.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    merwaffle

    Oh shit. This hit me. I’m realizing that I need to be more confident in my choices to exclude people from myself. I know they are no good for me, treated me poorly, and made not only myself, but everyone around them a little more miserable. I need to remember I burned that bridge because I know I’m not and don’t want to be the person they made me feel like. And that’s okay.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    denepretoria

    Sometimes you need to stop trying to put out the burning bridge and let it burn!
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    forest-pixie

    Tell me about it
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    goodtimes2468

    Totally agree
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    LordCthu

    I mean that's why I deleted my ex's number
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    OrangAMA

    I like this
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    razekery

    This is what I always do. Never look back and never regret. Respect your own decisions.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    RandomPsycho112

    Thought this said fridges at first
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    THEonlyDAN6

    Bbbut ... I don’t want to be stranded on an island
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    lunaspice78

    Burned my opiate bridges 9 years ago.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    pma32198

    I had a job for years. I hated it but it was easy. I tried leaving a few times but always ended up coming back. It was kinda like a safety blanket which was one of the reasons I hated it. Finally I’d had enough and when I was hired elsewhere, instead of putting in my two weeks I just quit so that I wouldn’t be hired back. Best decision I ever made.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    asleepinbee

    I like this one
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    johnrigler

    This is great advice, but only burn Bridges once you have crossed over them so you can't go back. For me, the latest example of this is the bridge back to that stable pointless job where I was paid to keep my head down and not solve any real problems. 😉
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Midnight-sh_code

    ... or to stop the other person from trying to cross them again... and again... and again...
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Magitorp

    And sometimes you need to burn the bridge since its totally rotten and will only bring you rats.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    rochellep504

    I had to burn bridges with toxic so called friends, so that they can never snake their way into my life again.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    svj1983xx

    I'm (36) going through this now, broke up with bf after 7 months. We like each other a lot but hes going back to his home country at some point. We are both in the uk but it's not his country of birth, he has no immediate plans to go home but he definitely will be. I told him that it's better for us to finish the relationship as there is no point to carry on if it's not for the long run, we cried but he understood. It's been about 4 days and he will not leave me alone and always wants to see me 😕 it's really painful 💔
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    pupypup2

    Yeah, if a "friend" is being a jerk to you, you can only take "I'm sorry" so many times.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Tommyboy420

    Yup, got spotted a bunch of drugs and never paid the guy. Did it so I would not be able to buy them anymore. He was my last connect and we didnt even know each others name.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Letibleu

    I gotta hand this one out like business cards lol
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    lilyros2

    Quickly as I'm off to the gym: pomodoro, micro exercise breaks, lunchtime walk (with audio book on headphones), distraction blockers (like cold turkey), positive procrastination (clean a room, vacuum, tidy paperwork, phone someone), check your goals/motives, take a proper break (come back to work when you are re-energised). Ok off to gym...
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Viriality

    Thats one method I employed to quit smoking cigarettes. I would throw whole packs away (in some public trash etc), sometimes before even smoking a single one. That way I would cut myself off until buying another "bridge" that id also throw away. My dislike of throwing money away was reinforcement towards quitting. And the fact that it was better for me to throw it away than smoke them was also a good logical backing to keep doing it
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Kadmonfu

    Where was this a decade ago?
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    UniquenessError

    Very true indeed.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    ughicantdothis

    This was kinda what I did to kill any chance of getting back together with a toxic ex. I basically did everything that he wouldn't want or dislikes in a girl after we broke up knowing if I were to mention those stuff, he definitely would not take me back. I can say it worked quite well although it might be a diffent kinds of bridges.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    nowciao

    This is a solid quote! Growth can be painful, but it’s growth nonetheless.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    chen2007

    Life is all about perspective. I have made some awful mistakes in the past and have struggled letting go of them. This gives me a whole new perspective on how to view them. Thanks OP.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Cellolizard

    I needed to hear this, but knowing myself, I still won’t follow the advice.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    stompinstinker

    My best friend always said something similar: You got to burn the bridge so you can’t go back.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Unearthed_Soul

    Omg. Coincidence I see this at the point I am in life? I think not...
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Jiminsrealwife

    This makes me think of letting go of friendships
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    [deleted]

    That's how I do with some things if I feel they're unnecessary in my life and need to cut them permanently. No exceptions, no doing something in moderation, no temporary.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    RainbowGoth89

    Needed this today
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Zermillion

    Quick story. I used to be a waiter in a restaurant. In California, serving is a pretty good paying job for someone without a degree. But I wanted to get out of my home town and get a degree. My manager made me an offer to be a supervisor, a big honor in his eyes, and I turned him down. That would have cemented myself in that location. I ended up putting my 2 weeks in shortly after because of the fear of being too comfortable there and to focus on community college. The sad part was I did reeeally bad that semester and ended up trying to get that serving job back. My old manager didn't even call me back. Luckily, that desperation forced me to evaluate my current life and I went back to school with more focus. I ended up getting my bachelor's a few years later.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    the_mind_wanderer

    But what bridges are the ones that we must burn?
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    sethsta

    If you burn too many bridges you will be all alone and then when you try to go back you're just stuck in choppy waters
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    heypeter69

    what i get from this: doing drugs is fine
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    StandardVandal

    How about some self control?
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Plutosmasha

    Just drop a turd on the hood of your bosses car
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Hilo_Lady

    Disulfiram is a good torch on certain bridges.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    groodscom

    Ah yes, the Andrew Bernard method.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    theherbalcannabist

    I burn bridges but I know how to swim!
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    JGWillikers

    That's literally the point of saying "burn your bridges"!
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Alextryingforgrate

    There are times when yes it is necessary. At times. Knowing when they are is the hard part
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Al_Timmiter

    I was laid off from a job I really enjoyed about two years ago. I was determined to go back, even though the ones who were kept, were the biggest clique of ass kissers I've ever worked with. Eventually, I realized that even thinking about going back was bittersweet. I even had a couple of interviews where current employees told me the place has changed for the worse since they consolidated things. I'm not applying there any longer and using 2020 to also wipe out unnecessary regret or living in the past. I didn't realize how much of an anchor that place was, and removing it from employment has made things just a bit better.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Jimmerpage

    Damn
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    s00126

    I'm more proactive,I burn it before I cross the river.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    DerangedWalrus

    Always burn my bridges because I'd rather fall in ditches, if life's a game of inches then my dick has been the biggest
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    RichardCranium317

    “We cross our bridges as we come to them and burn them behind us, with nothing to show for our progress except a memory of the smell of smoke, and the presumption that once our eyes watered.” Tom Stoppard
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    xandermcn

    Like when I was little, I often delete the porn after masturbation so I won't sin again.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    erndoggie

    Learning this right now... we’re told not to but wish I had . Burning a bridge isn’t always about us there’s who is on the other side and maybe it’s helping them as well, just saying.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    intoBands247

    This was a sign that I needed
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    glitterpants49

    I tried this and I got charged with arson
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    PhantomEHT

    pewdiepie logic
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Stachebrewer

    "Sometimes you gotta cross bridges then burn them so no one else can compete with you." -Jeff Bezos
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Greaterbird

    Changing your mind a lot is also a good reason to not be so hasty about burning bridges.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Xenton

    I would always rather burn a bridge than watch it gradually rot and fall into disrepair.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    jps1502

    I needed to read this.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    AbortedFetusNecro

    This is exactly what I need
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Chrommanito

    PewDiePie needs this
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    NoahsMind12

    That’s why everything tries to destroy the Golden Gate Bridge in the movies!
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    OnTheList-YouTube

    I just hope the police will share my view when I burn the 3rd bridge this week..
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    YouveLostTheGameAgin

    That’s why I always shoot my drug dealers in the face 6 times when I’m thinking about giving up cocaine.
  • Posted: January 14, 2020 02:25

    Anonymous