[image] Love Yourself

[image] Love Yourself
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Author: Jetty_Boy

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  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    tripleyothreat

    How do you go about beginning to love yourself / loving yourself more?
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    brucekeller

    I think to love yourself is to make sure and accept your faults. Don't act against what you believe in, or you'll lose respect for yourself. If you see a flaw in yourself, fix it, don't blame others. Also don't be nice or selfless just to gain the approval of others. Stick up for yourself, wouldn't you stick up for someone you cared about? All that ties back into the cognitive dissonance of trying to live a lie.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    locketeerian

    I've been to therapy before. During a few sessions' conversations my therapist had said some things that had ideas along the line of this. Quick context is that I'm nervous in every possible situation and take even the most mild reactions way too seriously. He'd said that it is fine to say some things. Some jokes I tell that fall flat with a few people might be silently funny to other people, you can't know. It is fine for you to express your opinions and ideas, even if you swallow your words, stutter constantly, or have difficulty expressing them. It is fine to have a differing opinion and okay to say them. I figure what he was going after was that you should love and respect yourself at a basic level to be at peace. Usually when I hear "love yourself" I immediately think of some ridiculous Johnny Bravo -kind of attitude where everything is about "me, me, me". That isn't the case. It's about being certain of yourself. You have your own ideas and you know why you want certain things. You have the courage to tell people or act out the small harmless things that you find fun and appealing. You don't need everybody's approval to do something. Whatever uncommon hobby, persona trait, petty habit you have, you can just let it be. Being an oddball is fine.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Silver_Crush

    Also this is not something you can fake. It takes some hardass work to love yourself in this way.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    plaid_connection

    I was depressed for 2 years. I was desperate, clingy and always thought people woild abandon me. After awhile, I got tired and start seeking help from a professional. Few months I started noticing a bit of improvement in myself. I talk to people, smile while greeting someone and sleep early as much as possible. After a year, I formed new friendships and got invited to many outings. I'm still that guy who is introverted, though a person with positive outlook in life. It just took one step for me to change everything. My life isn't perfect but I am more happier and full of love now. You'll never know what's there for you until you take that one step.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    poloniusandhoratio

    But how?
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    jie17

    love yourself of who the way you are,accept who you are because the more you love yourself you give love GENUINELY to others
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    7rieuth

    Learn to love yourself starts with understanding what happiness is. Love and happiness are so closely intertwined. But where most people fail is understanding what happiness really is. When you start understanding happiness you can begin the journey to self love. The main lesson is understand the difference between external and internal sources of happiness. A person with external sources of happiness has happiness that is on a linear scale. It goes up and it goes down. But a person with internal sources of happiness has happiness that is like an endless ocean. There will be high tides and low tides, but eventually the ocean returns to its peaceful calmness. Learn this difference and you will learn self love.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    eg14000

    Self-love is great but it won't solve all your problems. As someone who has been practicing self-love for 3+ years, I can tell you it's useless if you don't spread that love. It's easy to fall into the trap of narcissism. In my opinion, the biggest benefit of self-love is NOT the fact you seek less validation. We as humans naturally seek validation. The biggest benefit of self-love, in my opinion, is that when we naturally seek validation, if we don't receive that validation we don't lash out at the world. That pain is replaced with love and compassion to one's self. ​ In other words, self-love is more of a way to avoid self-sabotage and pain. Not necessarily the way to bring people into your life and or make your life better.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    AntiFame

    In my humble opinion, 1. Know thyself 2. Know what you want and what you don’t want from yourself and other people. 3. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If your words, especially the words you say to yourself, are false and/or negative most of the time... “This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    thomasmacisaac114

    I feel like broad "love yourself" advice leads to narcissism or a vicious cycle of depression; it's different than encouraging someone to have self respect and missing the critical ingredient of working on yourself to be a better person. It just sounds like the same old emptiness of "you're perfect just the way you are" to me.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    carnictus23

    r/wowthanksimcured
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    schultzie2240

    I didn't know I needed this. Thank you
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    viraltam

    really needed the uplift today. Thank you !
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    mrtmdpro

    Yeah... I have gynecomastia for about 3 years already (since puberty). I am sleep deprived, because I cannot sleep at night. I have been using sleep pills for a few months straight, since I started studying in another country. Also, however hard work I put in at the gym, I do not feel like gaining anything at all. Someone PLEASE motivate me, because I cannot feel like loving myself at all.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Honduriel

    For me, that's the ultimate goal. Gonna be along road until I get there tho.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Blip-in-the-Cosmos

    I really connected with this today. Nice.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    ProfessionalTalk

    yep.. i've always maintained that self respect and self esteem are very important. have those two and others will also see you highly.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    owjfaigs222

    I think i can perfectly well do that and still be unhappy about lack of relationship. I don't want it for validation but simply for the feelings that go with it.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Palzonee

    I had bad anxiety for most of my life, but a while back I dated someone. By just having someone there who I knew actually appreciated me for me, I learned to love myself. I learned that a lot of my worries were stupid and that I could relax. While we are not together anymore, I still feel free compared to where I was before I met him.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Vegis

    My advice for this would be to put yourself out of your comfort zone so even you get suprised at what you can do. If even you are impressed at yourself its way easier to convince the people around you of it aswell
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    ZombieLegsLeague

    It's that simple, just love yourself, haha easy... :C
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    JayLowBear

    r/thanksimcured ?
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    wolf0fcanada

    Love yourself by being honest with yourself and others. As you feel stuff, think about why you are having the feeling. When you're talking to someone, try not to lie or embellish. If you do, recognize that and think about why you did it. As you do this, you'll be digging out all the bullshit that you be built your life on. Or maybe that's just me.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Bethemeiwanttobe

    Ouuu I needed to see this
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    CarefreeKate

    IM TRYING
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    wizeowlintp

    That's a tweet posted to Instagram and then the Instagram post was posted to Reddit. Life is strange.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Zeriel00

    I don't love myself because I feel I'm not where I need to be. So I think the first step to loving yourself is improving. Do exercise, get stronger, skinnier, healthier. Be good at something you like to do, (for me is 3D art) even if it has nothing to do with your real job. Try to be around positive people, try to have positive thoughts and not be so negative. Also, find out who you are and accept it, don't try to be something you're not. I'm still working on it, I have a long way to go but I hope this helps someone.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    3pinephrine

    Like a mentor once said, when you stop looking to others to fill your cup, you can finally start filling their cups.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Mattrockj

    There’s a problem though... I already “love” myself. I’m the most interesting person I know. I love myself as a wonderful person. But I’m still stuck in a ditch.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    onewiththefuniverse

    Then you realize that you are everyone, and the love spreads endlessly.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Antonoir

    Not sure I could love an asshole though
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    northlightsdeweller

    DAMN!! I FELT THAT!!
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Novacryy

    People often thing loving oneself can be done just like that. No. If you don't like yourself, change yourself. That can be a lot of work. "Be urself" can only done well, if the best of who you can be is present.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    IamBUTTiful

    when cna I. how can i--do i
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    cyanaintblue

    So e people turns out to be Narcissist after loving oneself. So there should be a balance and ability to understand what it is becoming.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    drewbles82

    I'm screwed then as loving myself will never happen, hasn't happened in the 37yrs I lived so far, not going to happen in the rest, so should settle for being alone
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    ladybossoz

    This is so true ! And so appropriate to appear on Reddit, so many sad and angry souls that lash out when really all they are missing is self love ❤️
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    scalpingpeople

    fam, i've never been able to give a single shit about what others think of me. I don't really know what i think of myself , i guess i swing between hating myself and loving myself, idrk. i've tried A LOT to make myself love myself but it hasn't worked and at this point i don't even know what it really means!
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Dasheek

    But I am loving myself https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzE0aENcISM
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Scottmo51

    Once the inner is getting loved the outside appearance changes and you just radiate positivity 👍
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    creiij

    I love myself every night, and morning, and sometimes during the day...
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Byrgenwerth

    Those wouldn't be good reasons to love someone else. Why would they be good reasons for me to love myself?
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    somethingworse

    Maybe if I stop needing other people other people will like me 🤔
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    ThisGuyMightGetIt

    Okay but what if you do actually kind of suck?
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    StiltySteve

    Nah dead ass you just see a person dressed well and smiling and you project they live themselves
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    meowsouls

    Seeking validation and approval =/= everything
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    oliness

    This is true, and loving yourself is a habit that can be cultivated. A good way is to do a guided loving-kindness meditation like this one: https://youtu.be/rhavzhse6zs
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Marceline214

    The last sentence tho
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    alex090798

    Then i'm gonna get fucked, because i have hated myself since i was 12 👍
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    neodymium1337

    Yeah cool and all but please don't be obese
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Luna7890

    But it's so damn hard to start 😂
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    JAEqer

    I started loving and caring for myself because the improvements I had in my life and doing things my own way by trying to keep my heart peaceful is making me much happier but I also think it's keeping me away from being social with others since I'm seeing their faults and I'm better on my own..
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    mistandfury90

    But how can you love yourself when you see others who are so much better at xyz then you? Mainly I hate my personality. When I see a bubbly, funny or interesting person I want to crumble and die. How can you build a charming personality? I don’t know but this who love yourself shit sounds fake.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    uhnjmki

    But I don't love myself. If I'm a stranger I meet on the streets, I wouldn't start a conversation. In fact, I hate myself. Tyvm
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    producer35

    Thanks, good to be reminded of that today.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    exodius33

    What if "yourself" isn't someone people actually want to be around, even if you do love yourself?
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    senorgoofyboots

    I hate myself and could care less about validation from others. Im always gonna be my own biggest critic. Life is fun.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    mr_larry_hyman

    not true, the more I see myself for who I really am, the more depressed I get.........
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Adius_Omega

    It's so much easier for an attractive person with great hair to say this.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Ur-Bro-Dre

    I friggen LOVE that guy. He da best! For real! Also other people like him that are AMAZING are; Prince Ea Gary Vee Trent Shelton Y’all should follow them! Great for bringing you up. It’s good to surround yourself with that. Seeing their posts everyday just boosts you up and gives you happy vibes/energy. It’s a great feeling. Unfollow all that negative crap that brings you down and follow them! You can’t go wrong. Trust me. God bless you all & have a greatly wonderful day :)
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    siggy222666

    Tried and untrue
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    misslily22

    I try to always remember that I'm doing the best I can with the tools I have in the moment, and so is everyone else. I get much less annoyed at people now lol. Dude nearly hit my car? He's just doing his best today.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    bredsmuglr

    Rubbish. Love yourself all you want. In a world where we are all commodified items on Tinder with massive income inequality off Tinder, it doesn't matter who you love when there's a replaceable you at every corner. Find peace somehow. But don't think that loving yourself will end the collective desperation that our times have imposed on us.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    OpheliaGingerWolfe

    Loving yourself is all well and good until you find that you are the only one capable of loving you, thus finding yourself mimicking Atlas shouldering all of your burdens because there is no one else to help you out.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    FriedChknBiscuit

    ShettyLifeProTips
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    mustache_ride_

    But movies and commercials tell me visually it's impossible to love myself unless I'm good looking. /s
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    romeodendron

    can’t do it Karen it’s called depression
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    LambofgodQueen

    I needed this ❤️❤️❤️
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    doomsdayocelot

    Fuckn tell me how you stupid fucking jpeg
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Jose_Arcadi0

    I want to be filled from the outside
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Fatone420

    I love myself a few times a week and it doesn’t make a huge difference for me.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    TheEngiGuy

    [Except that human beings are not wired to seek love in isolation](https://i.imgur.com/jIPK2z8.png). If I had to choose between believing in the words of a happily married person with a huge online following and the words of a psychiatrist (also considering my past life experiences), I'd choose the latter. Loving ourselves won't fix modern social issues. You can however RESPECT yourself. Love is instead felt through others, that's how we're wired. Even though Jay Shetty makes some great points from time to time, I always disagree with that statement of his.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    samozturk

    This is so true. Seeking validation or approval comes down to being needy which also kills attraction with the opposite sex. Most successful and happy people love themselves first.
  • Posted: May 25, 2019 22:46

    Anonymous