[story] It’s Okay to Be Afraid.

[story] It’s Okay to Be Afraid.
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  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    BexKix

    Bravery is not the absence of fear, it is going forward even if you’re afraid.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    ThisNormalUser

    I’m getting ready to leave a job I’ve been at for almost 7 years. It’s comfortable, familiar, and I’m respected. The new job is better in every way (work environment, quality of life, compensation) but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t scared about the move. To leave something that’s a sure thing and all you’ve ever known for something that’s potentially even better, yet unknown, is nerve wracking. So this resonates with me. I’m gonna dive in and see where it takes me, because you’ll never know unless you try. Scary, intimidating, but exciting all the same. Edit: Thank you all for the awesome advice and encouragement, helps makes my decision all the easier! I officially accepted the new position this morning. What a rush!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    TuesDazeGone

    My daughter struggles with anxiety. I once told her "you can't let fear stop you from living". She recently told me this has become her mantra and has helped her a lot. I'm so proud of her.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    restingbitchlyfe

    I’m generally a “play it safe” person and my oldest has inherited my aversion to doing anything he finds scary. This past summer, we were cliff jumping off ~ 20 foot rocks into lovely deep blue lake water. It was high enough that it took me a good 10 minutes to psych myself up to jump. My youngest is like his dad and fearlessly leapt off with no hesitation. I watched my eldest and knew that it was going to be hard on him to be the only one who didn’t jump, especially since his 5 year old brother did it. I sat with him in the boat and as we watched others in our party jump off the cliff, I told him that there were many times when I was younger that didn’t do something because it was scary. These weren’t actually dangerous things, it was stuff like riding my bike down a steep hill or going on a roller coaster. I told him that, while not doing the safe thing felt better at first, I always felt sad that I’d missed out on something that others found fun. Together, we counted how long it took people to land in the water from the moment they jumped. We looked at where they landed and talked about how there were no rocks and how the water would break the fall. It was a total of a couple seconds. I asked him if he could be brave enough to tolerate being scared for 2 or 3 seconds before landing in the water with his life jacket. He said he could if his dad held his hand. They jumped together. He didn’t love it, which I get because I also hate the feeling of falling. But the satisfaction he carried with him about doing something cool despite being scared at first was so inspiring. We talked later about how fear is sometimes a warning that something isn’t safe, but how we can sometimes feel fear in safe situations just because it isn’t comfortable or easy. I’ve seen him much more willing to take on difficult things since then because he knows how great bravery feels.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    FeminaCanadiana

    ...so did she jump or...?
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    zero_omega_one

    Just had a panic attack thinking about an interview I have soon. I read this, I think I feel slightly better. Thank you.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    ProgressIsALifestyle

    It's cliche as hell, but fake it till you make it. It's not so much faking it, as it is doing it regardless of how scared you are, and every day, every hour, it becomes less scary - until eventually you're just doing it and you realize that this is the person that you are now.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    13471123581347112358

    >Archie Gates: The way it works is, you do the thing you're scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it. >Conrad Vig: That's a dumbass way to work. It should be the other way around. *-Three Kings*
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    mtflyer05

    You can't be brave if you aren't afraid
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Thongp17

    Bran thought about it. 'Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?' 'That is the only time a man can be brave,' his father told him. George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones (A Song of Ice and Fire, #1)
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    jimjackandhank

    Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway. -John Wayne
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    DIRTYDIRKADIRKA

    Being afraid keeps you alive. Panicking is what kills you
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    hovnohead

    When I was a child, I had a recurring dream that was both terrifying and exhilarating to me. In this dream, I would look out the back door of our house and standing in the middle of our back yard was a shaggy-haired, two-footed monster that was staring right at me, with evil intent of wanting to harm me. In my mind I knew that as long as I had the screen door present between me and the monster, I was safe. Despite my fear, I would then bolt out the door and run in a counter-clockwise direction around him (like running from 1st to 2nd to 3rd base in the game of baseball)--the monster would chase me, but I was always just able to stay out of his reach, and make it back to my house, to open the screen door and get back safely inside. Out of breath, safe from the monster, until the next time...
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    junegloom23

    I’m getting my wisdom teeth out on Wednesday. They came in when I was 15 and have caused a lot of discomfort but I’m only finally getting the courage to get it taken care of over 5 years later. My anxiety is so bad and I’ve put it off far too long. Terrified is an understatement, but the appointment is set and I’m gonna do it!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    MrMurse

    "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    MindManifesting

    Honesty with your own emotions is really important.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Mavarus

    I needed this today. Thank you for the push!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    LandofOpportunity

    There's a book by Susan Jeffers called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. It's a really good read.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    youfailedthiscity

    And that was the day my sister drowned.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    shminion

    I remember this! I found it on reddit a few years ago and wrote down part of it with sharpie on a piece of paper near my bed so that I could see it everyday. I was in residency and scared almost every day. It was such a game changer to think about it like this.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Solid_Snake_021

    That’s it OP, I’m gonna do it! I’m gonna send you a dick pic, thanks for the motivation! Edit: you are my first
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    TheInfinitive

    I needed this thank you. I’m on the edge of making a career change.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Sondermenow

    Well, here goes nothing. I can’t swim and I don’t know how to float. I know if I panic I’ll just pull any helper down with me. But with fist clinched in air, I’m jumping right in. Wish me and the lifeguard good luck!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Swagsational

    Damn. That woman is dead now probably. Her humanity lives on in you
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    The0Pink

    Going for a second interview tomorrow for a job I really want. Nervous as fuck but doing it with my head held high!! Thanks for this reminder of what courage is.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Zeegh

    “Let me tell you about scared. Your heart is beating so hard, I can feel it through your hands. There's so much blood and oxygen pumping through your brain, it's like rocket fuel. Right now, you could run faster and you can fight harder, you could jump higher than ever in your life. And you're so alert, it's like you can slow down time. What's wrong with scared? Scared is a super power. It's your super power. There is danger is this room, and guess what? It's you! You feel it?" - [Doctor Who](https://youtu.be/CemRLds4vlM)
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Trogger22

    The way it works is, you do the thing you're scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Cdchrono

    I used to to be terrified of heights. So naturally I became a tower climber.....
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    nineinchpandas

    It’s a leap of faith.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Miguel30Locs

    Just make sure it won't kill you. I can't swim. I want to learn. But I'm not going to dive straight Into the 6ft side of the pool to try to swim.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    vinylrules27

    She’s definitely been dead for at least 10 years. Yet she lives on in reddit form
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    DollarAkshay

    Im afraid of committing crime. 😛
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    BeardedManatee

    It really was a turning point in my life, when I realized that just mustering up 15 seconds of, "I'm so nervous/scared, but fuck it!". It was like, suddenly I was aware of all of these things and opportunities, that were only being prevented by my hesitance to just take the leap.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    joyweather

    I needed this today, thanks for posting!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    vonkrueger

    "Feel the Fear and do it Anyway" - Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    HoboMeatballs

    as someone with an anxiety disorder and OCD that can be debilitating, this is very wise words to live by. You may be deathly afraid to go against obsessive and controlling thoughts but sometimes you have to just "be afraid" and not listen to them and try to live your life the way you want and of course seek professional help.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Sternwindphoenix

    (...) and raised her fist defiantly in the air: "I am from district 9"
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Mega__Maniac

    WTF why write a story out like this and keep us hanging on whether the sister dived into the pool.... WELL DID SHE???!!!!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Mestanis

    Uh that reminded me to call my dentist...
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    zade1996

    You can't be brave if you're not afraid.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Max_Smash

    Yep - needed to read this today.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    on3pa55

    Dealt with anxiety my whole life, and as simple of an idea as it is, its helped so much
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    tbell713

    “It is only when a man is afraid that he can truly be brave.” - Ned Stark
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    anon5005

    Yes it's OK to be afraid. The post implies "only if you get over it." Actually:   I never let my kids dive headfirst into a pool. So many children get paralyzed by thinking it's safe to do that outdoors in a pond/river/stream. A kid who has a sense that something might be wrong with doing this, may be an insightful and sensitive kid.   Good teaching is supporting kids' instincts to be afraid when they make sense, and *also* extending them to areas where there is no fear but should be (e.g. crossing roads).   Understanding safety in this world is hugely important. An analogous point is where people say that an entrepreneur has to 'take risks.' Later, "Oh this lake is polluted with dioxin, why wasn't anyone careful."
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Djinson1337

    /r/iam14andthisisdeep
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Its_Ba

    plz use this for climate change
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    JohnGonad

    You don't get less afriad, you get braver
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    notnamedone

    Cringe
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    phoenixyfeline

    Fuck yeah!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    randomdarkbrownguy

    did she do it though? the dive?
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    yijiujiu

    The very definition of courage. Being fearless is a disorder; you would be a fool. Fear is a warning, but not a foebiddance.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    LitAlex0426

    I read it with my granny voice, it was better than I imagined
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    mrich275

    She wasn’t an old German lady saying “do it for the Motherland” was she?
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    IWalkAwayFromMyHell

    "What's up Danger?"
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    ENDERwigginnnnn

    And this is how I lost my virginity
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    chaoticdreamer21

    I suppose it is
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    cambeth821

    Love this!!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    hulk_hogans_alt

    Now this is the kind of quality content I subbed here for. I live by this shit. That said, don’t ignore your fears entirely.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    chairman_steel

    I learned the same lesson from an episode of Mighty Max.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    ThatOneNomad

    "It's not about being unafraid. It's about being afraid and doing it anyway"... WOW
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    deemonstalker

    Damn good story. I’m all pumped up for no reason now.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    TonyBamanaboni11

    Than everybody clapped?
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Noshamina

    Damn that was a great story
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    omermerG

    Sounds like something from an anime. I love it.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    BootyBec

    This sounds like something my grandma would do. She’s very good at motivating us but also telling us that feelings and emotions are valid as well.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    skoot-skoot

    I love you guys.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Mr_Calrissian

    I misread it as him being 33 years old and teaching his 6 year old friend
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Ominaeo

    I read that as "drive" and was horrified for a moment.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Acidwits

    GO YOU BIG RED FIRE ENGINE!!!!
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    NiceMitochondria

    Probably not something a depressed/suicidal person wants to read at 1am 😂😭 Appreciate the message though
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    thecwest

    About to go to a different job and I'm scared shitless because I'm going to have to commute and hour there for a while, and I'm taking a paycut. This made me feel a bit better.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    devolve79

    I read something similar In a clive cussler novel. Changed my life
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Ironicexe-and-Tube

    That woman’s dead now
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    elrond8

    I’m starting a new job this Monday morning. Have been apprehensive all week. I’m still apprehensive, but now, I’m gonna make sure I wake up and go anyway
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Frission7

    That’s amazing 😁
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    thedancinghippie

    I love this book! "Between Shades of Gray" I tell my partner this every week
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    brbta

    i guess I'll sign up for flying lessons again... and solo even though it terrifies me. yeah, life's just not that simple...
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    daxtar101980

    Fear runs the world. Fear drives each and every human being. Successful people know how to benefit from their fear.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    nelbell26

    YES! My god the number of times people have judged me for saying I'm anxious or I'm afraid. Acknowledge people's feelings and encourage them to take the step despite them.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Weirwolfe

    Yep. Sometimes you have to push through the fear.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    shadowclaw191

    Taylor Swift said this “FEARLESS” is not the absence of fear. It’s not being completely unafraid. To me, FEARLESS is having fears. FEARLESS is having doubts. Lots of them. To me, FEARLESS is living in spite of those things that scare you to death. FEARLESS is falling madly in love again, even though you’ve been hurt before. FEARLESS is walking into your freshmen year of high school at fifteen. FEARLESS is getting back up and fighting for what you want over and over again… even though every time you’ve tried before, you’ve lost. It’s FEARLESS to have faith that someday things will change. FEARLESS is having the courage to say goodbye to someone who only hurts you, even if you can’t breathe without them. I think it’s FEARLESS to fall for your best friend, even though he’s in love with someone else. And when someone apologizes to you enough times for things they’ll never stop doing, I think it’s FEARLESS to stop believing them. It’s FEARLESS to say “you’re NOT sorry”, and walk away. I think loving someone despite what people think is FEARLESS. I think allowing yourself to cry on the bathroom floor is FEARLESS. Letting go is FEARLESS. Then, moving on and being alright…That’sFEARLESS too. But no matter what love throws at you, you have to believe in it. You have to believe in love stories and prince charmings and happily ever after. That’s why I write these songs. Because I think love is FEARLESS.”
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    meliCR

    This is what I needed.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    jama211

    I’ve found this technique useful for anxiety and panic attacks. Telling my brain “well go on, panic then, fucking go right ahead” sort of short circuits the behaviour.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    kronix6969

    We need more people like this tbh
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    theninjaoff

    Count to 3 and just go for it. Works for me everytime.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    wimpbasket

    Damn OP, your a good sibling. All my older brother ever tried to do at public pools was canon ball on me and drown me in the process.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Prawnboii

    But did she ever jump in the pool?? That's one hell of a cliffhanger to leave us on.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    LaylaLeesa

    Thanks, I needed this shit right now
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    TheButtMan123

    Why don't I know cool old people like that?
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    juangusta

    As a skater, this is 100% true. Although I've been so scared a few times my body started shaking to the point I couldn't physically skate. That's when it's okay to not do it because you're afraid.
  • Posted: February 16, 2019 01:28

    Anonymous